The 10 Essential Ingredients for Building a Healthy Relationship.

I am fond of reading magazines and books during my free time. That is the best way of killing time for me these days that I am away from my family and working abroad, and i want to share this beautiful topic which i excerpt from THE SAYIDATY MAGAZINE pp. 82-83 issue 15 February 2009 by Saudi Research and Marketing Group. I think it will be helpfull to everybody specially OFW like me.

Finding love and maintaining a healty relationship can be challenging for everyone. Experts say that you must have a balance of love, patience and self-esteem to really make it. Even just one person's efforts can make a big difference in a relationship. By focusing on these 10 elements, your relationship is sure to thrive for years to come.

1. HONESTY. Honesty is one of the most basic of all elements to any healthy relationship. A deep and loving honesty between two people says,"No matter what happens, you will always know the true me." This feeling allows couples to open up and be the best they can be with each other.
2. FORGIVENESS. Couples who can't make up will break up. As simple as this sounds, without forgiveness in a relationship, old hurts often resurface and neither person is truly able to let go of the past.
3. COMMUNICATION. Couples need to learn how to talk through both easy and challenging issues. Disagreement are part of every relationship. To get through them, partners have to learn to respect their different ways of communicating and "walk in their partner's shoes." This means learning how to communicate love in a way that your partner hears and feel it.
4. TRUST. Trust is like honesty in that it deepens over time. Couples, who are able to trust each other, don't have to deal with insecurities between each other. They 're able to speak freely and be themselves, knowing that their partner loves them for it.
5. TIME APART. Couples have to spend time away from each other. In the beginning being inseparable is normal, but over time, couples need to develop different interests and habits in order to have continued interest in the relationship.
6. FRIENDSHIP. Couples need to be friends as well as lovers. When the passion wanes, it is the deep friendship that keeps people together.Any long-term married couple will tell you that it is the friendship that keeps them together.
7. MONOGAMY. Monogamy is one of the founding element of all marriages. You can't have trust and honesty if theres isn't monogamy.
8. SIMILAR VALUES. This means that when you make major decisions in life, you two fall close to the same line. You may disagree about some issues, but the couples that are the happiest agree about the big subjects like money and how to raise children.
9. PATIENCE. If you can deal with your partner's issues and his or her imperfections with patience, you have the bond to make it through the rough times. Marriages don't end because there are problems; they end because people quit trying to work those problems out.
10. PASSION. Couples, who have the passion for each other, are able to sustain their love. While this may ebb and flow over time, the genuine passion for each other is at the heart of all lasting relationship.

I hope many people understand this and read this and apply it to theirselve, thanks to SAYIDATY on of the leading english magazine in the middle east for woman and also helpful to men.

GOD BLESS US ALL. And also by putting GOD above and in between our relationship it will guarantee a lasting healthy relationship for all of us.

The Hapiness of Having a Family of Yours.

I became busy these previous days with many problems with my job not the problem of mine but the operation problem of many machines on my company. By the way I am a electromechanical technician of one printing company here in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia.

Life here is so monotonous we are just catching what the times brings to us @ 8AM work @ 5pm go home rest watch tv etc... my colleague now loves marian rivera in babaeng hinugot sa aking tadyang of GMA pinoy tv awesome telenovela!!!.

This past valentines day was a casual day for every one of us. No more no less feelings felt...
But for me this month of February is a very special month of my married life... February 15th of 2003 was our first date with my wife, my girlfriend then. And after one year February 22nd of 2004 we were married in the church in Lobo, Batangas...

And now the HAPPINESS IS FELT WHEN I RECEIVED THIS MESSAGE " thank you for being responsible, patient, understanding and faithful, I LOVE YOU not only because you are the father of my daughter but because i believed GOD sent you into my life, YOU make me feel complete... I feel very blessed co'z I have you and my child, I love you so much Good night!"

For me it is a way of appreciating what I have done for my family i Feel very much fulfilled!
Now i know that all my loneliness away from them, sleeping away from their bedside, eating alone knowing that you have wife and child... All of these vanished when i received this message.
everything comes with happiness.

I am complete now .... being married is a happy choice for me before i am afraid for these responsibility but for 5 long years im really ready and responsible.

I will fulfill my destiny as responsible wife and father to my children....

A VERY HAPPY STAGE OF MY LIFE BEING MARRIED!

i hope all the married men out there feels like i feel God Bless Us All.

The Best Way to Cope With Homsickness.

By looking at this angels .... what you may think my friends. First , my child i leave her when she was 1 and half or do my child let me kiss her she never seen me? Many many questions and that would be homesickness. Ha ha ha ha...

Next, what do my wife and children are doing now do they happy with out me on their side, without me on their breakfast. Do they eat what i am eating?

This picture is full of love and caring with a kiss of angels. And for us that would be the most important thing. Lost of love may wreak the family we work for the reason why we are here abroad. Doing all the things we need to do cook, clean our room and bedding's wash our clothes etc. And our partner to be mother and father for our child to tight their budget so that we can see something from our hard earned money. We have many things in our mind some are good all happy moments and many are bad things which i do not want to write. ha ha ha.

We should focus on good things from the time we met when we are singles to the time we received the big YES to our first night together to our wedding day to the birthday of our children's. By thinking this things we can treasure the moments with them we will be strong enough to stand against... vices, forbidden love once, one night stands etc.

And make yourself busy with something for me i like music learning what i supposed to learn when i was a child , guitar and keyboard for now i know how the music works and what are the notes and how to play the musics. Play the your songs for me its ALL MY LIFE by AMERICA.

I have flute, guitar and keyboard in my room i paste guitar keyboard foster in our walls. By having this no more homesickness i have something to do every time for now i have to divide time for everything time to update my blog site, to learn my new piano and guitar chord, and to sound my bamboo flute.

Every Fridays or Thursday i spend 2- 3 hour chatting with my wife to have an update of anything happen at home and with my child. And the best thing is i cope with homesickness positively. And i think it will be also work positively for you. And always pray to GOD he will give everything we need. God Bless!

The Fuel of the Future.

I live in the country of many natural resources The Beautiful Philipines! but i am working in the country of oil-Saudi Arabia. Many times i am thinking why we are here what if there was no saudi arabia what will be my job? And why we need to be here?

Now if you browse the internet the topic global warming, alternative fuel, environment etc. are very much in demand and it seems everybody is talking about. But me i made the research on how i can share my part on this senario of climate change. We need to account our carbon emision what they call our carbon footprint.

And based on what i have read we really can do much about it specially on waste disposal system the best thing to do is recycle. Everything can be recycle even our sewage system and kitchen waste can be a source of methane gas that can run our internal combustion engines and can be use for cooking our food and heating our homes.

In the Philippines we can use all the those potential energy source we are almost yearround with sunshining over us. We are sourounded by ocean and the wind that is flowing can be use to run our wind turbines like what we have seen in Ilocos province. The geothermal we have many volcanoes , the hydroelectric we have many water falls. And even if there will be no oil fuel in the Philippines we can live abundantly. We have everything Fossil Fuel will be scarce but sun will not stop shining for us.

And most of all we have abundant source of water and this water can be separated into hydrogen and oxygen through the process of electrolysis and oxygen is needed by all living things to breath and that hydrogen is a good fuel for our combustion engines in europe and america hydrogen car is already in the market. And we in the Philippines should start to use this form of fuel no more pollution and no more crisis in terms of fuel like what we suffer this days our economy now is driven by oil if we utelized this hydrogen fuel no more price increase driven by oil...

And i think it will be the time we can say that we are Tiger Economy if we are not affected by oil dollar economy. And by that time all of us OFW can safely stay in the Philippines for good.

I apeal to all Scientist and Academecian in the Philippines we should start this searching for the right technology to utellized this form of fuel NOW.

How to maintain long distance relationship an OFW point of view.

I am happily married person for 6 years now and to tell you frankly we know each other for only 7 years. We have 4 and half year old daughter and we lived together for only one and half years.

For me to maintain this relationship with very minimal misunderstading no quarell etc... are the following. I will share this to all of you because these are really true and works for us.

• Put God inbetween you. On the first day of our seminar before church marriage the lecturer told this to us and we made this for us. If both of you put God in between anyone of you will not do bad or cheat your partner. And you know that God is watching both of you.
• Totally accept each other and be ready to changed yourself if needed. We hear this many times " if you behave like this when we are boyfriends i will not marry you." Real love... loves the person both good and bad. There was no perfect person as in PERFECT! on your way there will be contradicting times for you but we should accept this and we should talk about it we should find the common place... we know that our wifewill be angry if we are always going to the beerhouse why do this always... and if you know that it was together with the jobs of you husband why be angry...
• Don't anticipate ... Talk about it... Ask if you have worries talk about it heart to heart. When We say yes on our weeding day its is an obligation and big RESPONSABILITY... We should make our partner happy. Constant communication is the key GOOD COMMUNICATION NOT A QUARREL.
• Audit yourself everyday. Did you do anything for this day to hurt or angry your partner? Try to do everything for happiness and contentment of your partner.
• And most of all HAVE TIME FOR EACH OTHER. Even we are far away try to have at least 30 minutes and have an effort to talk even on telephone or internet. Have your sexiness and humor as partner specially you husband and wife always there. A simple SMS message which cost you SR.0.45 in Saudi arabia and 1 peso in the Philippines it has a big impact to tell each other that you were ther for each other a simple i love you is enough.

This is my secret to have a happy family life and you for i have alredy plans for our silver and golden wedding aniversarry. God Bless you all wishing everybody a HAPPY NEW YEAR and A HAPPY FAMILY LIFE!

New Year's Day Away from Home.

This is already my 4th new year away from home, but still i felt the loneliness other people feel. But we need to be happy and look at life on the positive sides.

Last January 01 of 2005 the only new year i spend with my loving wife and only daughter Shekinah for our 6years as a family. That was a happy celebration... We have received christmas package from my previous company. I have christmas bonus and mostly i am with my family.

But then i have great problems; my child needs recontructive surgery for her clef lip and pallate; my housing loan arrears soar to 11 months, my ATM is already taken as collateral for cash loans. I have no even centavo savings on my account. Its been a time of worries for me.

The following months my child really needs to undergo surgery because she is already 1 year old and learning to speak. I call DSWD I ask everyone who can help me and God is Greate and very much helpful to me i learn about PBM or Philippine Band of Mercy one foundation who help those with clef lip patient like my child. And 2 times surgery of my child was finished.

And now after 4 years.... i spent christmas and new years away from them but the good thing is at least i have updated the payment for my housing loan. I have no loans like before. Sometimes i can give some amount of money for my parents and brother. My wife can buy something for our dear home. And most of all my wife now is not bothered by many bill which before she don't know how to be paid.

I cannot give everything for my child because my salary as maintenance personnel is not that much. But she has all the basic necesities in life food, good house, dresses. Thats may not be enough but just fine unlike other people who has no prepared food for every day.

New years day away from them is really lonely but thats the reality of life a life of poor peoples. What we are now is what our parents did so we have the choice now of what our chilrens life would be in the future...

It is ok to spend 3 more new years away from them but i have enough to send my kids to school and give her the necesities for life.

A HAPPY AND ABUNDANT NEW YEAR TO ALL!!! GOD BLESS.